For Those Struggling with Life: The Healer and the Patient Theory

woman issue of blood

In 2014, which one were we? Were we the healers or the ones being healed? Is it possible to be both?

In 2015, which one do we plan to be? If we were one, could we be the other? Can perspective be our healer? Can Christ bring us perspective in dark times?

We all live in the same world with different circumstances, but in the end it has to do with our perspective. How is it possible that a poor family can be content and grateful? How can it be that sometimes a rich person may lack in gratitude. How come you can walk down the musky corridors of a hospital and find two types of people lying in a patient bed with two different auras?  We have the faithful that lean all their weight on the idea of miraculous intervention and we also have the patient who remains faithless due to their upbringing and their choices in life. We have people who will be reading these few sentences curious about the next sentence and others that have already checked out mentally. We have people who are followers of Christ that love to HEAR his word, but doing is another story.  What is it that defines our perspective? People have asked me all the time how to acquire peace. First of all, we must go to the Author of it; the Savior of the world. Second, Christ has the ability to give us perspective, and through His eyes we will find peace. Either the eyes to embrace suffering (Job the prophet), or the eyes of an upcoming miracle and the faith to sustain it.

In spirituality and your relationship with God, I believe the Slight Edge Theory may assist in all aspects.


Here is a portion of what Jeff Olsen summarized as the Slight Edge Theory. Perhaps we know the concept, but in the end “knowing” will never be enough. President Kimball, one of the modern prophets of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints changed a small portion of the Hymn I am a Child of God. Instead of “teach me all that I must KNOW”, he changed it to “teach me all that I must DO”.  Knowledge can be like seeing the stairs to heaven, but not using them would be the actions we took. When we apply Godly principles, we begin seeing everything from a higher level and we start seeing how God sees things.

The Slight Edge Philosophy

Excerpt by Jeff Olson

When you were a tiny, little child, you made your
way around the world on your hands and knees
crawling. Everyone around you was walking and one
day you got it into your head to give that a try.

So, little by little, you worked on developing the
skills you needed to walk. You grabbed on to
something above you and pulled yourself upright.
You stood up, holding on to a table or chair or
big stuffed animal. Wobbly and unsure, you let go,
fell down, and tried again and again, until you
stood up all by yourself. Then, you took a step.

The older people you watched took one step after
another: right foot, left foot, right foot, left
…but you managed only one step-and you crashed.

After days of side-stepping around the coffee table,
awkwardly bringing one little foot out from behind
the other while you held on to Mom’s or Dad’s fingers,
you eventually took your first couple of steps…
all alone…all by yourself…and (hopefully) to the
cheers and applause of your family.

Baby steps. One at a time. And you were WALKING!

probably spent more time failing than you did
succeeding. But did you ever have the thought of
quitting? Did you ever tell yourself, “I’m not cut
out for walking-guess I’ll crawl for the rest of
my life?” No, of course you didn’t. So, why do you
do that now?

What’s different today with any goal you want and
desire you have for accomplishing anything? When
did you lose the ability to make a goal, go for it,
and get it? How come you don’t do what you did when
you were one or two years old?

The answer is alarming, yet simple:

Somewhere along the way in your life, you became
unwilling to take baby steps. You lost faith in the
universal truth that the simple little disciplines
done again and again over time would move the
mightiest mountains.

Shakespeare said “to climb steep hills requires
slow pace at first,” but now you put your trust
in achieving breakthroughs…making quantum leaps
…instant this, instant that…hitting the lottery.
You began a habit of settling for less, just because
more was so far out of your reach. You forgot about
the most proven, powerful success philosophy on Earth
– “The Slight Edge.”

forget that moving moment of triumph in the ’94
Olympics when American speed-skater Dan Jansen at
last overcame years of discouragement,
disappointment, and frustration to finally win the
gold medal in the 1000 meters, setting a world
record of one minute, 12.43 seconds?

Do you know by how much of a margin Jansen won?
Do you know what the difference was between the
winning world record gold medal and the virtual
oblivion of second place?

Twenty-nine hundredths of a second! That’s a very
Slight Edge!

No matter where you look, no matter in what area
of accomplishment, life, work, or play-the
difference between winning and losing, between going
down in the record books as first and best…or not
at all-the gap that separates success and failure is
always measured as … THE SLIGHT EDGE.


Here is where the Slight Edge comes in. When you come into your Mormon faith, or whichever faith you reside in where there is a Higher Power you resort to, the climb is a long one to acquire any life with Godliness. The Hidden Christian is the man or woman  who prays when no one watches. The person who donates and doesn’t go on Facebook to announce to the world that they donated. For the Savior has called your act vain! It is the person who reads scriptures with the family and they go unnoticed since it is so early in the morning. Even when they have guests over, they go downstairs and still read the Good Book together. When the man of the household blesses his children, its in secret and never truly gets announced or made public .It is the woman who prays for her family consistently in her heart and teaches their children the power of gratitude without being boastful  of what God has blessed her with. They don’t care what day it is , they know to always put God first and they do the small prayers, the small scripture reading, the small dedications to the church and service of men. What are THESE people building? How do they build these foundations and fortresses of Zion without anyone noticing? They have intentionally made the decision to take the next verse as part of their daily routine.

But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth, so that your giving will be in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.

Matthew 6:3-4

This reward may come within your lifetime, it may come after, or it may reside in both spheres. Let me tell you an automatic blessing that comes in this life.  You have acquired a fortress where the view is better from your watch tower. As you listen to the prophets of our church, you stand alongside with them to see what is coming towards your family. He allows you to be a prophet of your home and Christ encourages you to receive revelation for your household . All this will bring perspective when times get tough. Whether you have been chosen to be the healer or the patient, you have built a quiet Zion where your view from the watchtower gives you perspective.  For those of you who have created the irrational thought that because you follow God,  persecution will never come and you will be blessed spiritually monetarily and spiritually. You have been unfortunately have a entered the realm of being spiritually myopic. Some of the greatest followers of Christ went through the worst in life, but it gave them experience. In the end, all we want is peace in this life and hereafter. These Christians did not attain it mastering just the Sabbath, everyday has become a ritual to praise God and use their talents and heavenly tools during their daily living. They don’t choose God on Sundays, they realize that God created the calendar and He did not forget to wake you up this morning. The reason why I placed a photo of Jairus is because she was healed by Christ, but she also became a healer of souls for those who witnessed it. Ill repeat this again:




I have mentioned in my last post the love I have for my Saviors mission regarding the assistance of Israel in Jerusalem.  One of the greatest stories is the story of Jairus. Making Sense of the New Testament makes a great point about the different way God touches us (literally).

Between the beginning and the end of the story of the healing of Jairus’s daughter, Mark includes a brief account of an unnamed woman who suffered from “an issue of blood.” The two stories are interrelatedand share common features: Each has to do with a woman, – one older with a longstanding illness and one younger who had actually died. Furthermore, under Jewish law, both women were impure and coming into contact with either would make a person ritually unclean. The older woman had been bleeding for twelve years, and the young woman was twelve  years of age -about the age when she would be engaged- ready for marriage. In one story, the older woman touches Jesus and in the second story, Jesus touches the young woman.

Of course, this account, just as the story of the woman with an issue of blood, is about faith. Matthew and Luke may have expected their readers to consider an EARLY story- the story of the healing of the centurion’s servant (Matthew 8:5-13; Luke7:1-10). The soldier in the earlier story did not need Jesus to come to his home- his faith was sufficient- whereas the Jewish synagogue leader needed Jesus to come to his home.

I have always wondered who I would be in these historical stories? Am I the one that reached out to Christ after twelve years of suffering? Am I the person lying on a bed with people who mourn after me as if their was no hope? Am I the centurion that believes that the word of Christ and miracles can teleport to my servant miles away at an instant. Similar to water, the degree of it changes everything. Solid, liquid, and vapor of H20 could be a great analogy of how we hold our faith and the different degrees we can attain.

As we do the small little things everyday, I believe we build a solid fortress. Drinking the waters of eternal life everyday enables us to build ICE blocks around our family to protect it from the harms of the world. Yes, the world will hit, but would we rather have ICE BLOCKS or would we surrender to vapors and rough rapids?

I can’t help but think about my mother as I write this. An Oncologist who experienced Cancer during the last years of her life. God blessed her with something that enabled her to become the ultimate healer. She was not content with healing the body, she had a curiosity to heal the soul. The last 4 years of her investigating the church for one main reason. How could she cure her patients as a whole? I testify to you that she acquired WISDOM in the suffering she went through.

I know someone who had a dream about my mother a few days after she passed away. She told this person that she was worried for a close friend of hers (Vidya). She told this person that on Friday she was particularly concerned. We took the chance to call Vidya directly and tell her about the dream and that she was concerned. Vidya was left speechless but had bad news for us. “Nothing happened Friday, I don’t know why your mother was concerned” she said curiously. We hung up the phone. Five minutes later, she called back crying and said that she cut her hand deeply on Friday and that she rushed to the hospital.

My mother continues to heal and be a doctor on the other side of the veil. However, in this instance, she just made someone whole by letting her know that we live after we pass away in the flesh. Every doctor must be a patient to be a TRUE DOCTOR. Even Christ himself sunk below it all, so that HE may know how to lift us. Are we better than Him? Shall we not follow Him and learn to heal people through our experiences.

For those who are sick and going though trouble, this is how we receive Healing.:

As we heal others, GOD will heal us.

For those who are blessed and have acquired a relationship with our Creator :

As God heals or blesses us, it is our duty to heal others. For those doing the small things everyday, we have something to look forward to. Suffering in our lives will be bring healing to another. As we heal others, we become whole.






What is the good you have received through suffering? Have you been healed and realized that you were not the only one being healed? Share your Story and let us all be edified. Share this story and Feel Free to Comment. I love to hear stories myself and will comment when you place your thoughts on this post.



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